You don’t have to have a model-perfect body to have maximum fun in the bedroom. Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body. If this feels awkward, turn on some music and dance naked with your mirror image. By getting used to your unique shape, you’ll gain confidence that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your partner.
i have a tip for the anon about the boyfriend losing the erection during sex and what not. the same thing happened to me and my boyfriend. he'd get performance anxiety and always lose his erection. my tip is don't make it about the sex. make it about pleasuring each other. if you can tell he's losing it, reassure him it's okay and to relax. but just have lots of fun with foreplay, like take a lot of time with it. and if the time is right, suggest having sex. just make sure it's about pleasure.
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This is pretty much what I was trying to say but I forgot to mention the pleasure part orz orz thank you~
Do you guys offer advices for homosexuals (particularly girls)? Just curious.
We do, and I do have some experience in that area. But I only have a little, however we will also do some research. There are some tips for homosexuals on our blog, for both sexes.
I am a very emotional person and I'm only 18 so I haven't gotten to the point in my life where sex can be casual and not mean anything to me. So pretty much, having sex with a guy leads to me having feelings for them. Knowing this, do you think I should avoid being fuck buddies/friends with benefits with someone? And also, I can't orgasm! I've tried pretty much everything but using a toy while having sex, what should I do?
I would definitely avoid a situation like that. There is nothing wrong with being emotional and getting attached to who you sleep with. As for the problems having an orgasm, not everyone can, but keep trying anything you can think of. I would try to make yourself orgasm on your own, rather then just trying to during sex, since you have more control and you know your body best. Try focusing on your clit if you can, you can try using different types of lubricants or toys. I hope this helps~
So my boyfriend and I recently lost our virginities to each other but it has been coupled with a lot of stress for him. The first time we didn't really finish since he didn't have a condom, it was more of a tease for both of us, but since then whenever we try to have sex he gets too nervous and loses his erection. Is there anything I can do to help him relax and stop stressing? He is worried that something is wrong with him but I think he is just thinking too much...help please?
You guys could try masturbating together, it can help reduce stress and get you guys more comfortable with each others bodies again. I know it can be difficult, you can also try lots of foreplay or giving each other massages. Let me know if none of these work and I will give you some more ideas~
If you breath on the crotch area of your partners clothing to make it warm, it feels good for your partner and is a good way to tease them.
is it normal to give head before sex? like should they cum from a blowjob, then have sex to finish again?
It is normal to have head as part of foreplay, but it may not be the best idea to finish them though. It takes most men about twenty minutes after finishing to get hard again. But not all men are like this, so it just depends. Make extra sure you use a condom if you do finish them first, then have sex.
“female” ejaculation is actually separate from orgasm just as penile ejaculation. There are several people who ejaculate without orgasm and vice versa.
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To discuss the female side of ejaculation vs. orgasm, is squirting typically considered an orgasm? I've orgasmed with clitoral stimulation and I have also squirted. The feelings are entirely different, especially with squirting because I find that after the fact I am more satisfied and the feeling lingers. Whereas, with the clitoral orgasm seems to be more in the moment. Don't know if that makes any sense, I just find squirting to be a more subtle and deep orgasm that takes a while to build up.
I believe it is considered to be a possibility as part of an orgasm. The thing is despite popular belief, most women don’t squirt. I think the way you described when you squirt is how people who don’t squirt often feel their orgasms, so I definitely think it is an orgasm. Possibly what you describe as a clitoral orgasm, maybe something leading up to a larger one. I wonder if our followers have anything to say on this matter. I hope this helps~
Great job! you make people more open about sex. :) Hope you can help, i have a problem after masturbating. I feel my hand dirty all day even after washing, and think to much about touching things with it. I don't have problems about religion, or thinking its a bad thing, i know its something everyone needs to enjoy to know his body, but this Feeling makes me uncomfortable. Any tips?
Thank you <3 that is our goal~
Have you tried using something to cover your hand? You could try using a glove or a condom along with some lubricant. You could also you a very soft wet towel. Location could also be a factor. Maybe if you tried in the shower you will feel cleaner? You could also get something to thrust into while masturbating? Some people try fruits, but there are also lots of toys for men. There are lots of other things you can rub it against for stimulation so you don’t use your hands, though depending on what it is a condom might be a good idea. Let me know if none of these things help and I can look into some more things for you to possibly do.
To the anon who asked - Male orgasm and ejaculation are two different things, and while most commonly, one occurs with the other, it can happen separately. In order for a man to ejaculate, several things have to happen and in the right sequence. First, and outwardly noticeable, the scrotum tightens up, pulling the testicles closer to the body. The testicles MUST be 98 degrees or thereabouts to release sperm. You can sometimes delay orgasm AND ejaculation by pulling lightly down on the scrotum, and pulling it away from the body. The prostate provides the medium in which the sperm travel. That milky white salty substance, semen, is mostly from the prostate. It is mostly complex sugars, and the sperm from the testicles. Muscle contractions around the prostate push out the semen. Massaging the prostate tends to cause ejaculation to be less forceful, because it relaxes those muscles responsible for that “squirt”, and more abundant, because it forces more out of the gland. If a man is dehydrated, or has recently ejaculated, the prostate will sometimes “misfire”, or contract, but not produce any semen.
If he experiences sharp pains right before or during when he feels he is ejaculating, that could signal a blockage. If he didn’t have any pain, then it may have been just a nice orgasm, without the ejaculation. Hope that helps.
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So me and my boyfriend have been having sex but I wanna please him and make him beg or it since I usually am the one begging. Any tips? Teasing tips would also be nice please and thank you:3
You can start teasing him with his cloths still on. Even when you are in a semi public place so the anticipation will build up. Running your fingers over his, whispering things in his ear, and sticking you hand in his pocket are all things you can do with people around. When you are alone, if he still has his underwear or pants on then you can try putting your mouth right by his member and blowing on it slowly and softly so it warms the fabric up. Get close to touching him, but don’t quite. You can do this other places as well. You can also try almost or barely touching him pretty much anywhere, it will make him want you to touch him everywhere but wont give him the sensation. If you are almost touching him, make sure he can feel your breath. When it comes to his penis, you can lick it and blow on it as well. You can also stroke it with just a finger or two, and you can play with his tip, but don’t stay in one area too long, and try to not cover a large area at once. You can also try licking and playing with his testicles, he will enjoy this but it will definitely leave him wanting more. I hope this helps~ Good luck~
Have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend for not that long now and I'm still soar when he enters and afterwards but I am fine during sex. We're well lubricated beforehand and there is a lot of foreplay but somehow I'm still soar afterwards. Sometimes it only lasts around 10 mins but other times its worse and can last a few hours. Do you have tips to avoid this?
It might just be that you are not used to having sex regularly. You can try using some different positions then usual and see if that helps. If it continues to happen consistently then go see a doctor
Although it is common, I would still go see a doctor just in case, especially if this is the first time it happened or it happens frequently. Even though it is probably nothing, just to be safe.
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